Can You Be a Jerk and Still Have Success With Women?
November 16th, 2009
It’s completely understandable to envy “jerks” when it comes to getting women. Watching as these bad boys score all of the hottest women while you, the nice guy, get left with the scraps can be painful indeed. There are some things you need to know about what’s really going on here, so pay attention to what I’m about to tell you.
Despite what it may look like, being a jerk does not equate to instant success with women. You will enjoy much more success by focusing on certain behaviors that you are almost certainly exhibiting that are actually repelling women. You see, trying to hard to be a “nice guy” usually just causes women to think that you are timid and uninteresting.
If you were a gorgeous women with her pick of the litter, you would not want anything to do with uninteresting men either. Women may be from Venus and men may be from Mars, but I’m sure you can agree that life is too short to spend with boring people.
It doesn’t seem like it makes much sense, but many men seem to think that being as boring as humanly possible is actually a good strategy when it comes to courting or seducing women! Despite lackluster results with this approach, I see these guys try again and again to bore women into liking them. I know that nice guys don’t realize how boring they are being, but that’s what it comes across as!
To succeed with women by being a jerk is to realize that crossing the line isn’t actually a bad thing. It’s not actually being a jerk. To a woman, a man who tip toes around her and worships her is not a nice guy. He is just a wimp.
The jerk on the other hand is a guy that tends to excite women. He doesn’t perceive himself to be a bad guy; he’s just honest with what he wants and can be a little blunt, never putting a woman on a pedestal. This is a refreshing change for a woman who is used to having guys suck up to her all day in an obvious ploy to get into her pants.
Forget everything your mother, your school teacher, or your best friend ever told you about attracting women. It has nothing to do with how nice you are OR how much of a “jerk” you are. It all boils down to attraction and entertainment. Women are entertainment driven creatures. They thrive most with men who are exciting and bold and come with a little drama.
Shed your misconceptions, and the women will love you for it. Nothing is more refreshing to a woman than a jerk who isn’t afraid to speak his mind around her.
Here are a couple of required reading materials if you really want to start developing a personality that is attractive to women: Art of Approaching, Magic Bullets Review.
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